Saturday, August 15, 2009

Meeting Him

To all of you who were lifting us up in prayer, THANK YOU! All I can say is that we felt them. We could not have hoped for a better meeting. While, of course, it was awkward initially and tense at some moments, everyone was respectful and even nice to one another.

We didn't discuss the court case.

We didn't ask him to sign away his rights and he didn't ask us to give him custody. We left that to the lawyers. Certainly we are still on opposite sides of the battle but I think ground was gained in the department of mutual respect.

We were supposed to end at 2:00. And that's when the social worker left. We ended up dropping him off at the airport at a little before 4:00. We picked up Garrett on our way to the airport and let them meet each other--because he wanted to meet our son. We felt comfortable enough with him to extend our time and take him to the airport ourselves.

It was an enormous comfort when, at one point, he said, "You guys are good people." The fact that he no longer views us as psychotic baby stealers is a real relief. Like I've been saying all along, I have no idea what on earth is going to happen here. I still believe God wants us fighting for this child. I still believe that our home is the best place for him. But at least, for the moment, we have a cordial relationship with his birth father.

Thank you for your prayers. And, please, keep lifting us up.

Deep in the dark of despair
Deep in my heart there's a prayer
That faith will reign over fear
That courage and strength will be mine

My heart is heavy I don't understand
Yet I know my life is in your hands
I realize that I am incapable
Of changing alone the impossible
But I believe in miracles
Together our voices will rise

We are not powerless in the face of fear
As one we will stand and make our voices clear
When God's people pray things will change
When God's people pray all the earth will obey
My faith can't be shaken because I have seen
The amazing, miraculous happens
When God's people pray

Our defense in danger
Our light in the midst of life
Our strength in the weakest moment
Our hope through the night, the night
All things are possible when we let go
Let go of what we can't control

When God's people pray things will change
When God's people pray all the earth will obey
My faith can't be shaken because I have seen
The amazing, miraculous happens
When God's people pray

The peace that we need will only come when we get on our knees

When God's people pray you know things will change
When God's people pray all the earth will obey
My faith can't be shaken because I have seen
The amazing, miraculous happens
When God's people pray

-Crystal Lewis

13 comments:

  1. Wow, that's wonderful news! I'm so glad to hear that things went well... even better than I had imagined! I know there's still a long road ahead of you, but this seems like a step in right direction. Yay!

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  2. I am so glad that the meeting went well. I was praying! I cannot imagine the intense emotions that go along with this for your family.

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  3. Wow! You've been in my thoughts and heart all day and it is really good to hear that things went so well. Yea God and his mysterious ways working once again!!!

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  4. God truly superintended this meeting and I pray that you will be able to look back and see it as a miraculous turning point in this journey!

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  5. Praise God, Praise God.
    Thank you for the update.

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  6. Wow! It's so good to hear that there is some peace regarding your relationship with BF. Not that it makes it any easier, but we continue to pray for you guys!

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  7. Im so glad that things went well!!! I hope that he saw how Matthew is such a big part of your family, and how much you guys love him.

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  8. Just wanted to let you know that I added Matthew's badge to my website. I've been reading your blog for awhile now, and just thought I should show my appreciation for what you are doing for this little boy.

    All children deserve love. :)

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  9. if i knew how to add matthew's badge to my blog i would but i am not smart enough to do it...

    i am sooo glad that the meeting went well and will continue to pray that the Lord softens the bf's heart even more regarding the situation. :)

    ~heather

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  10. I'm glad that all went well. My entire family prayed for you during my "slot" and have been in my thoughts and prayers ever since.

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  11. Oh I am SOOO glad that it went ok! And I prayed at my alloted time on SATURDAY as well as FRIDAY. ;-) I'm not sure why the heck I am a DAY off, but seriously I think today is Tuesday. Not sure when I'll get back on track. Blah. hehe

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  12. Thinking of you guys lots these days. Praise God for a good meeting.

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