tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post2275806414884458143..comments2023-10-18T08:58:33.389-06:00Comments on Livin' in a Fishbowl: When There Is No Return Address...Lorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09612681279996237855noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-91828697354629543762009-07-28T15:44:14.162-06:002009-07-28T15:44:14.162-06:00Lori, I have been reading your blog for sometime n...Lori, I have been reading your blog for sometime now via Running Wildly. I don't know that I've ever taken the time to comment, but I felt really compelled to do finally do so. First of all, thank you for taking the time to write, although originally for your family and friends to be updated and connected, you have deeply encouraged me as a young woman and wife and others too I can see. I can understand why and am glad that you responded to the anonymous comment, as hard as that can be. I guess I can see where some of those kind of comments or questions come from when you learn where that person's reverence point is... and in the world's eyes it makes some sense. However, as you explained so concisely, it really makes more sense for you to be home with your boys and being a mom and pastor's wife are really more than full time jobs. When we love Jesus and commit our lives to serving God and living as He commands, priorities are different. I admire your commitment to your marriage, your kids, this adoption journey, your church family and ultimately to being a woman in love with God. Thanks for writing! May you continue to be blessed. --AmberAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-54718527608294531482009-07-28T10:04:55.537-06:002009-07-28T10:04:55.537-06:00Money will always come and go ...time with your ch...Money will always come and go ...time with your children can never be replaced. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-2328568966563634372009-07-27T20:54:16.518-06:002009-07-27T20:54:16.518-06:00Lori,
I suppose we open ourselves up to these kind...Lori,<br />I suppose we open ourselves up to these kinds of questions/comments having a blog about our lives. But I'm glad you responded to that person. You are a proud & loving mother and I have never thought that you're doing anything other than God's work. <br />Whatever help you're getting, is just a response to that love.<br />Big hug to you!Kerinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-63045550675249301322009-07-27T19:17:05.351-06:002009-07-27T19:17:05.351-06:00wow! All I can say is that I hope you don't g...wow! All I can say is that I hope you don't get comments like that all the time...being a wife, much less a Pastor's wife, and a mother are FULL TIME jobs! And the amount of money you would make at any job would not make it worth leaving your children in someone else's care. <br />Please know, that you have my total support in this...I am a stay at home mom, and my family thinks I am off my rocker for not working since we have to make sacrifices. But, I know that I am doing the right thing. <br /><br />And so are you!!!<br /><br />Just my humble opinion ;)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01648710369494452073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-56339162405552719402009-07-27T19:16:10.545-06:002009-07-27T19:16:10.545-06:00Lori,
Well, this was an interesting twist of chap...Lori, <br />Well, this was an interesting twist of chapters. I am so very proud of you and your heart. <br /><br />I too, cannot wrap my mind around working outside the home and making the exact same amount of money it would take to pay for the sitter or daycare. Waiting and wanting so long to have a baby and then turning around and having someone else raise it makes no sense to me.<br /><br />Furthermore and above all else, what I have with Zoe is immesurable, and I am so happy to have been able to be with her her at home since her birth. Money is incredibly tight, but I would rather downsize, pinch pennies and work out of the home as I am now rather than go back to working outside the home. Mommyhood is much harder than I thought it would be, but seeing my guidance within Zoe is seeing what piece of our future I am giving to the world. <br /><br />Your words, your strength, your heart and your dedication all encompass what we adore and respect so much about you, and we all will continue to support you, your family and your path that God is beautifully paving.tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01759572670468991739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-13307453512552045272009-07-27T18:43:57.177-06:002009-07-27T18:43:57.177-06:00I think anonymous has missed the whole purpose of ...I think anonymous has missed the whole purpose of your blog. It is about your family and sharing with your friends and family what is going on in your life. It is not a blog for donations. Besides if people feel compelled to donate, that is their business not any one elses. As a fellow stay at home mom I know you have the hardest job on earth. I know you are doing the best thing for precious Matthew.Baby Gear and Morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11469638726865133553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-46929057656105033132009-07-27T17:57:58.582-06:002009-07-27T17:57:58.582-06:00Not that you owed me anything, but i actually appr...Not that you owed me anything, but i actually appreciate you taking the time to write a post explaining some aspects of life which maybe have not come out in the past, or at least I have not seen.<br /><br />Many can think I am rude, and uncaring and whatever else they think. However, I live in the real world, not just a world where everyone thinks everyone is great and everything is A-ok. The reality is many, many people are stuggling in this day. <br /><br />While I may choose not to reveal much about myself, I will say that my occupation is that of a Court Reporter. I sit in court, day in and day out, and watch people's lives fall apart. Today, I saw in foreclosure court, where the docket was so large, that we were not even able to finish it in a days time, and have to call people back another day. I sit in child support court, where the fathers refuse to pay even $50 a week for their kid, and the moms work 2 and 3 jobs. I do criminal , where crimes of selling drugs and bank robberies are skyrocketing.<br /><br />Life isn't easy for many people, myself included. But my point was that people who want something, sometimes have to give in and find alternate ways and do things they thought they may not have to. Whether that means a job, a yard sale, watching other peoples kids in your home with your own, who knows what it means in the log run for you.<br /><br />It is obvious you have the support of a lot of friends on your blog, and that is great. And just to be clear, I don't believe that I ever used the word "beg" in my last post.<br /><br />So, there you have it. I will leave you alone, and not comment anymore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-81336955034017236952009-07-27T13:55:34.428-06:002009-07-27T13:55:34.428-06:00wow, just got caught up on all the drama. and all ...wow, just got caught up on all the drama. and all the thoughts and encouragement i was going to give has already been said many different ways, so i'll just leave it at, "well done!"heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06693901431333983890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-61986702863072210462009-07-27T13:21:08.430-06:002009-07-27T13:21:08.430-06:00Well said. I agree with you whole heartedly. You...Well said. I agree with you whole heartedly. You are doing the right things. Keep it up Momma :)kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10661707548294535644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-77397987485741902792009-07-27T12:30:45.250-06:002009-07-27T12:30:45.250-06:00Well written.
And I am not sorry you had to write ...Well written.<br />And I am not sorry you had to write it. Better you to defend these important roles than someone who would be angry or snippy.<br /><br />Our world often just throws it up..."Need more money in your family? Get another job"...well, when both parents go to work they hire someone to do what they are leaving. So therefore, it is an important and real "job'...you simply don't get a paycheck. If you hire someone to watch, feed and care for your children, and possibly someone else to care for and clean the home then these roles must be important. Society has screamed at us since the 60's that this is bad, and oppressive, but they are wrong.I was ready to go off an a big speech, but I do not want to offend anyone that feels they have to work full time with young kids.Craylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15260303944797544290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-36285611050782694022009-07-27T11:21:28.852-06:002009-07-27T11:21:28.852-06:00I can't believe people would leave such commen...I can't believe people would leave such comments and then not have the guts to leave their name.<br /><br />No one - NO ONE has any idea how difficult our government can be when it comes to children unless they experience it themselves.<br /><br />No one - NO ONE has any idea how costly the lawyer is, the trips to court unless they experience it themselves.<br /><br />And no one - NO ONE has any idea how big a toll this process takes on the mental, physical and emotional side of someone unless they experience it themselves.Lindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01001887689493380499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-2398939761023037802009-07-27T11:19:48.966-06:002009-07-27T11:19:48.966-06:00My husband often tells me stories about how his pa...My husband often tells me stories about how his parents would forget to pick him up as a child and how he doesn't feel very close to his parents now. It will mean so so much when they are older that you were there for them now. I know that it's meant a lot for me that my mom stayed at home when I was growing up.Danae Hudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10494305884228697891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-21138350192716241782009-07-27T11:11:42.243-06:002009-07-27T11:11:42.243-06:00I agree with all the previous comments and am sorr...I agree with all the previous comments and am sorry that you even had to explain yourself! I think that it has been very evident that you are doing as the Lord has led your family and are living by biblical principles. Being a SAHM is a big job, let alone being a pastor's wife. That's a full plate already. I think you're doing a great job.Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04889589697186648864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-81093906796079836932009-07-27T10:46:39.633-06:002009-07-27T10:46:39.633-06:00Thanks for this. Thanks for being home for your b...Thanks for this. Thanks for being home for your boys like mom was home for us. Thanks for seeing that parents are the best people to raise children, and not some anonymous nanny who makes off-base comments on blogs. Thank you for your example of faith, perseverance, prayer, and patience. Keep it up.Jonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03746667852512994009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-70500009638824464562009-07-27T10:45:21.880-06:002009-07-27T10:45:21.880-06:00Lori,
Wow, it sounds like someone was trying to h...Lori,<br /><br />Wow, it sounds like someone was trying to hurt you :( that's a bummer, but they obviously have no idea the commitments on your plate right now and what those commitments mean to you. We have chosen for me to stay home as well, and while we have tough days (financially) there are no other options for us at this time. <br /><br />I hope you let the hurtful comments slide and continue to focus on your husband and boys. Being raised a PK, I totally relate to being a support to the church and pastor/husband/dad. And that IS a job. <br /><br />In addition, I love your blog. You are an entertaining and excellent writer and I have never once had the impression you are begging for money :) In the family of God we are called to be support to one another and that support is done in many different ways. And as we have discovered this last year, many people find much JOY in giving money to worthy and amazing causes.<br /><br />Just my two cents on the matter :)Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16897495339505830608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-18245932253031079032009-07-27T10:28:00.571-06:002009-07-27T10:28:00.571-06:00Very well said - I think you are doing a compendab...Very well said - I think you are doing a compendable job on often two of the most overlooked jobs out there. And while I can't speak directly to your job as a pastor's wife - all I have to do is look at your adorbable boys to see that you are top notch at your role as a SAHM!AP Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15753122081917733068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-27021654820413750652009-07-27T10:22:18.739-06:002009-07-27T10:22:18.739-06:00I am saddened you even felt obligated to write a r...I am saddened you even felt obligated to write a response to this clearly ignorant individual who commented under the 'safe' blanket of anonymous. Lori, you don't have to justify your callings....but I do understand your human need to rebut as a means to reassure yourself and others that you ARE doing the right things. Nasty comments can shake you to the core, that I understand. Please know that your blog does not come across as 'needy' or you begging for money. You are a kind & caring woman who is victim of an attack. Don't let it waiver you!L&Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11300904977347356094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-36275691305963568382009-07-27T10:17:45.773-06:002009-07-27T10:17:45.773-06:00Well written. There will always be people who see...Well written. There will always be people who see things differently than we do. Keep fighting the fight.Ginnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15742555137233980273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-71022296975619369242009-07-27T09:59:50.017-06:002009-07-27T09:59:50.017-06:00I commend you in doing the hardest job in the worl...I commend you in doing the hardest job in the world...being a mom. Top that off with all your pastoral wife/family duties and I have no clue how you can balance it all. I would fail at doing all the things that you do. It is preposterous to think that you could have another job on top of your already 2 full time jobs, and I hope "anonymous" and whoever else was thinking you should get one sees that now.<br /><br />Keep up the great work; you are a blessing to your family, your church, and your friends. :o)<br /><br />~Heather<br /><br />ps- I look forward to the continued adventures of rock star and little buddy! The stories always give me a smile throughout the day.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12626005501082960105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-76086392716121539532009-07-27T09:58:51.850-06:002009-07-27T09:58:51.850-06:00Lori,
I hope anonymous comments like those are rar...Lori,<br />I hope anonymous comments like those are rare, and sent by a person who has stumbled upon this site and has no idea who you are and what you're going through. I have never felt you were begging for anything other than prayer and wisdom and direction and miracles. Maybe some readers out there needed to have certain questions answered, but I certainly hope you are not feeling remorse for anything you have shared with us up to this point. We love Matthew and care deeply about the wholeness of your family.mama jessihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06920470389133352638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961259802208415232.post-66156090215749670232009-07-27T09:58:50.205-06:002009-07-27T09:58:50.205-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12626005501082960105noreply@blogger.com